Resist the temptation to COMPLAIN (Always Forward Series Part 3)

When things do not go right, we always have the tendency to do one thing – complain. This is the first response for most of us humans.

This is unfortunate because not only is it counterproductive, complaining usually makes us feel worse off emotionally.

Why do we “like” to complain or choose to complain? I guess it is because it is the easiest thing to do. It kinda gives us the justification that the next logical step to take is not from us, our end but that someone or something that we are complaining about. It gives us a reason to not think creatively because the issue is not with us, or so we would love to think.

When an employee does not perform as required, it is not uncommon to see employers blaming them for their incompetence but seldom see them take ownership and reflect if their instructions to their employees were clear enough. Complaining helps defray the complainant’s responsibility from having to take proactive actions.

So what is the alternative?

Without complicating it unnecessarily, it is as simple as take a step back, reflect and look for avenues where you can make a change or tweak to effect a better outcome. Instead of asking why, learn to ask what? Instead of why is he or why the external is the cause, ask what can I, the only constant in the equation, do in future to facilitate a more favourable outcome.

In the example above, instead of blaming the employee for his incompetence, look for areas where you can guide him towards effective work. This is, of course, taking into consideration that the individual is willing to commit to learn.

Lesser complaints also make us happier human beings. It saves us from unnecessary emotions that do not serve anyone, especially the complainant.

It is not easy but it is not hard either. It is a habit and the more we practice it, the better we become at it!

The greatest investment – Yourself (Success at Work Series)

We all want to be rich. And many falls for get-rich-quick schemes.

It is unfortunate. Instead of getting richer, they got poorer with no real returns.

Do you know that the easiest way to ensure sustainable growth in your income and earning potential is to invest in yourself?

Yes, the journey will be longer. But once you get it (through continuous experiments and learning), you would have acquired the skills needed to stay resilient even during bad times.

Get-rich-quick schemes will ultimately be just schemes. If they provided riches for some, they were lucky to not have been burned. But why depend on schemes when you can rely on the most reliable source, yourself?

To kick-start this series, the first thing we want to focus on is MINDSET.

There are a lot of books out there on this subject matter. In a nutshell, always learn to see the positive in any situations.

If you got a failure, ask what you have learnt.
If you are stuck, ask what you can do differently.
If nothing seems to be going right, ask if it is time to take a step back and reflect.

The questions we ask ourselves are important and all these starts with our MINDSET. If we have a mindset of blaming others, we will find the faults of others instead of reflecting inwardly and make a proactive choice towards change.

This series will be interesting, I want to make it as accessible and easy to understand as I can.

The journey will require commitment but I am sure if you move along with me, you will come out better. You will be the bright light your company will come to appreciate.

Buckle up and come take the ride with me.