Rise above unfairness

Do you know that there is a great equaliser for the “unfairness” that many seems to be complaining about?

What is more beautiful is that this equaliser is in all of us!

So what is this great equaliser?

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You heard it right! It is the power of Choice! And I am going to explain why, so it will be placed in the right perspective for you to gain this liberating power.

Say you are working in a company where the boss shows unreasonable favoritism to a particular colleague. Not only that, the worse thing that could happened is that this colleague of yours hate you so badly, maybe because of your effective work planning. The thing is because of your effectiveness, it takes more effort for her to continue being the great worker in the eyes of the boss.

Adding on to the fact that the boss never appreciates your effectiveness, you wonder how you can rise above this unfair situation.

This is when the power of Choice comes in handy. Instead of feeling defeated and negative about the situation, you always have a choice to change the course and re-write your story. You can either have a genuine talk with this boss and find out whether you are in his long term plan or you can realize that enough is enough, you are going to start looking for a place that values your contribution. Either way, you are making proactive steps towards your success.

So when unfairness abound, know that you always have an equaliser, and that is your power of choice. Having said that, do note that this equaliser gets more valuable and effective when you invest in yourself and start to increase your skills and differentiate yourself from the rest. The more skillful you get, the more effective your power.

The power is in you to overcome many things. The more you invest in yourself, the more powerful you get.

Don’t let anyone belittle your contribution. No matter how small it may seem at this present moment, it is bringing value to the bigger picture of life. Will share more on this in a separate post.

Have a beautiful week ahead!


3 Steps to a Successful Reboot (Always Forward Series Part 2) 

In my previous posts, I shared about how I maintain my positive energy, which is crucial to me being an effective human being, partner, worker, colleague, friend, family member, father and even husband. This is despite the humerus failures and falls I had endured throughout my years of living.

I would hope that I was the only one who was affected by my valleys. However, the fact is that it affected those around me, including my loved ones. 

It was through these tough times that I learned about the art of moving forward. It has helped me to not only overcome the tough times, it made me a tougher person and has prepared me to embrace more of these tough times. 

I am not trying to sound pessimistic here but what I want to highlight is that there are always barriers and pitfalls for those who pursue life. It is only natural because it is precisely this reason that we call life an adventure. What is Indiana Jones without all the challenges that he faced, right? 
So how do we stay sane and find the light at the end of the tunnels? For me, I simply REBOOT, and I will share with you briefly how I go through each steps before expounding on each in future posts.

1. Reframe

I start off with bringing all that is affecting me in my current situation/state of mind in front of me. For “reality” is directly related to the meaning we give to any given situation. During this step, I try to find new meanings and wonders about the reasons for that which is happening in my life. It likens to finding the good in any situation. 

This is the first and most important step towards a successful grab of the light at the end of the tunnel. Through reframing, I am essentially trying to break new holes in the tunnel to allow light source to enter.

2. Refocus

Once I have found a realistic new meaning to my otherwise sad story, I realigned my focus and zoom in on the actual exit of this tunnel. 

It is here where I find ways to strategize my escape out of the tunnel. Once the strategies are penned down, I keep my eyes on the exit and go on to the final step, equally crucial.

3. Re-Act

Like what Anthony Robbins always advocate, MASSIVE ACTION is the mantra for this step. Why did I label it Re-Act? It is simply because we have to start taking actions again, which is to act again (re-act). Of course, it also helps to make this post a little consistent with all the 3 Steps starting with a “re”. 🙂 

Once I act, I am effectively working towards my reboot – my escape through my tunnel, my valley, my tough time. 

One disclaimer I would like to make is that it is never easy. Never, ever easy. Even after numerous attempts. You will feel like crap when you hit a wall and worse when you fall into a ditch. 

But remember, the whole point of this sharing is about learning the art of moving forward. It is very simple to give this a pass when you are going through your golden period, like the investors not worrying about taking up credit during the bull’s run. 

Always keep this sharing close to your heart. I would hope that when the bear comes, this sharing would act like a stop loss for you, a means for you to cut your losses and rebound stronger. 
With that, I wish that you will have an awesome week ahead!