An Honest Review for 2019

Do you remember the moment sometime last year where we felt hopeful and inspired to start afresh in 2019? We then proceeded to jot down our goals for the year and went into the year feeling that 2019 will be a defining year.

Fast forward to the end of 2019, I guess it felt like de jevu, all over again, back to reviewing the past year, goal setting and encouraging ourselves that the new year will bring new changes.

Some of our goals will be achieved while others will seem like a “failure”. Personally, I did achieve some of mine but I remind myself not to put myself down for not achieving the rest.

There is a fine line in making sure that we are accountable to our commitments and goals and bashing ourselves and making it more than it should be, thus demoralising our own spirit.

So this post is just a quick reminder on the importance of goals, an honest reflection and the way forward.

1. Goals

As the name suggests, they define our goal posts, areas for us to score, so that we know we have achieved something. Without them, we would be aimless. Thus, to have a successful year, we have to be clear with what we want to achieve.

2. Reflection

Reflecting on our past years help us identify bumps on the roads that caused us to not reach our target and goals. Reflecting gives us perspectives and at times, takes away the subconscious guilt that we do place on ourselves for not achieving something. Reflection (honest one) gives us knowledge and power to set us up for probable success in the new year ahead.

3. Way Forward

The simplest way would be to list a new sets of goals for the new year. However, a more effective way and efficient one would be to use the information gathered from our reflections (point 2) and implement strategies to help us cope and ensure the rate of success in achieving our goals rises.

Every “failure” and moments of work are great learning experiences. While many of us (in this perfectionist and well informed society) may not like the trial and error process, great inventions and moment of brilliance in life were still products of this timeless strategy. We should never let lack of information or the need for a perfect strategy stop us from moving forward.

I guess the best way to look at 2020 is to head into it with renewed hope, an improved strategy, and the guts and tenacity to do our best to make it better than 2019.

Life leads us all down different streams…

Life is like a stream flowing down from a mountain top. We may all start off from a hospital, where we are born. However, one baby’s experience on life is not going to be the same with the others. It is like the streams finding its own path, as they journey down the mountain. But at the end of it, we will all still meet at the bottom, where we flow into the afterlife.

I was recently re-connected with a friend on Facebook. He was one of the coolest guy that I got the chance to meet during my army days. It was probably barely just past 10 years, and I was really surprised at where life has brought him to. After a great career, he is now taking a sabbatical from the corporate world and exploring different opportunities. He is invested in a few properties, and is also onto a couple of business projects.

Unlike him, I never had the chance or was not exposed or aware of the job that he undertook, which took him from the initial point to where he is now. I was on a totally different stream. I did have my fair share of success in my own career but relative to his, I was no where near what he was earning.

The interesting thing is this – he was just like any of us, a normal guy from a decent family, not born with a silver spoon. He just worked his way up, and fought to get to where he is now. He told me that in his previous job, it is just happened that he was into what he was doing, and actually got a knack for doing what he was initially given as a job.

That’s the beauty of life. I am so inspired by him. What this experience taught me was the fact that everyone has their own streams in life to go on. We will not know where the stream will lead us to, what opportunities is going to bring us to, but the only thing we can do is to enjoy the experience (the now), and make the most out of it.

We may not experience the similar financial breakthroughs as some would experience. We may not even be as “lucky” as some. But this is the unique stream that you are on. Maybe it is just not your time yet to be there. Instead of being bitter and telling yourself that you are not as good, it is definitely more awesome to soak in the stream, reflect on where you at now, before making a list of where you would like to be/achieve, and then getting back on the stream and making your way to where you want to go, as per your list.

I am going back onto my stream now. Maybe we will meet somewhere down the “mountain.”

In the meantime, wishing us all the success and fun in our own individual streams.