Am I destined to… 

What is destiny? The dictionary defines it as “the events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.” 

So what then is our destiny? Are you able to foresee your own destiny and are you able to alter it? 

Here in lies the fundamental framework to life – asking the right questions and evoking the right mentality towards reviewing a certain topic. In order to be able to have an effective answer and strategy, most of the time, the right questions matter. Will share about this more in future posts.

So what is our destiny? What do we want to happen to us in the future? Success? Happiness? To be physically healthy, so that I can enjoy fun activities, thus making me happier? The clearer we can define the events that we would love to happen to us, the clearer our strategies can be.

What does this mean? It means that we can alter our destiny. We can make life happen TO us instead of waiting for it to happen FOR us. We can determine how we live it and make use of it. 

Be encouraged that nothing that is happening in your life now is set in stone. We will have the ability and the power to change it and to improve it.

You are destined for GREATNESS!

Send me your thoughts, I would love to hear them. 

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3 Steps to a Successful Reboot (Always Forward Series Part 2) 

In my previous posts, I shared about how I maintain my positive energy, which is crucial to me being an effective human being, partner, worker, colleague, friend, family member, father and even husband. This is despite the humerus failures and falls I had endured throughout my years of living.

I would hope that I was the only one who was affected by my valleys. However, the fact is that it affected those around me, including my loved ones. 

It was through these tough times that I learned about the art of moving forward. It has helped me to not only overcome the tough times, it made me a tougher person and has prepared me to embrace more of these tough times. 

I am not trying to sound pessimistic here but what I want to highlight is that there are always barriers and pitfalls for those who pursue life. It is only natural because it is precisely this reason that we call life an adventure. What is Indiana Jones without all the challenges that he faced, right? 
So how do we stay sane and find the light at the end of the tunnels? For me, I simply REBOOT, and I will share with you briefly how I go through each steps before expounding on each in future posts.

1. Reframe

I start off with bringing all that is affecting me in my current situation/state of mind in front of me. For “reality” is directly related to the meaning we give to any given situation. During this step, I try to find new meanings and wonders about the reasons for that which is happening in my life. It likens to finding the good in any situation. 

This is the first and most important step towards a successful grab of the light at the end of the tunnel. Through reframing, I am essentially trying to break new holes in the tunnel to allow light source to enter.

2. Refocus

Once I have found a realistic new meaning to my otherwise sad story, I realigned my focus and zoom in on the actual exit of this tunnel. 

It is here where I find ways to strategize my escape out of the tunnel. Once the strategies are penned down, I keep my eyes on the exit and go on to the final step, equally crucial.

3. Re-Act

Like what Anthony Robbins always advocate, MASSIVE ACTION is the mantra for this step. Why did I label it Re-Act? It is simply because we have to start taking actions again, which is to act again (re-act). Of course, it also helps to make this post a little consistent with all the 3 Steps starting with a “re”. 🙂 

Once I act, I am effectively working towards my reboot – my escape through my tunnel, my valley, my tough time. 

One disclaimer I would like to make is that it is never easy. Never, ever easy. Even after numerous attempts. You will feel like crap when you hit a wall and worse when you fall into a ditch. 

But remember, the whole point of this sharing is about learning the art of moving forward. It is very simple to give this a pass when you are going through your golden period, like the investors not worrying about taking up credit during the bull’s run. 

Always keep this sharing close to your heart. I would hope that when the bear comes, this sharing would act like a stop loss for you, a means for you to cut your losses and rebound stronger. 
With that, I wish that you will have an awesome week ahead!