Category: Life

Staying positive no matter what

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To be honest, we are all living in a world that has so much negativity and stress. We cannot deny that with technology, our lives have really changed in the past 15-20 years. Everything is moving so fast, people are having so many decisions to make every single day and we all now have a visible voice on many platforms.

With all good things, there is always the flip side of it, which is the cons. What speed has brought us is stress. What ease of doing business online has brought us is cheats and those get-rich-quick scams. The list goes on for everything negative.

And that’s the problem! Why focus on the negative when all we can do for ourselves is to look at the brighter side of change because you ain’t going to take away the dark side. But you can most definitely be happy and positive despite the negativity that is so abundant in this world.

For me, I keep a blog here to remind myself of epiphanies that occurs to me and moments of inspiration that pulled me up when I fell. I also posts photos and videos in Instagram (@damian_wanderer) to share about my fitness journey.

Basically, I am not in Instagram to earn any money (at least not yet) but to be as real as possible to the genuine people that I have the honor to share my journey with. My fitness aspiration is to be sustainable, consistent and real. I mean, life is not all about six packs and all, so I do not believe that I have to portray my success the time. I am human and I do fall down because I am not perfect, so I do post about the valleys and the honest truth of living a life (not a bed of roses).

What that can bring sometimes, and with those who are also sharing their sincere and humble opinions (with no intention to be better or above anyone else), is people who may put you down for your “lack” of success (according to society standards) and “constant” falling down.

To be honest, we cannot be too bothered by third party opinions when we are on this journey ourselves. However, we have to be humble enough to take “negative” comments or opinions constructively because while there are some genuine haters who just love to hate, there are those who are sharing their dose of tough love. Of course, I do believe that there are always better way to communicate rather than to do it in a negative tone but that’s for another post.

We have to remember that we are living our own lives. We cannot be allowed to be kicked around by standards and opinions.We have to stay positive and believe in ourselves because it is so easy to discredit yourself and doubt yourself like some of the people out there who does not believe you can. We owe it to ourselves to stay sane and focused. Not on impressing anyone but to build up ourselves.

If we are secured in ourselves, no amount of hate can put us down. The trick is to ignore. Look at the beautiful side and stay humble. Smile, be happy. Bless and response in kindness because to have a back and fought words war is just feeding into any negativity that may already be present.

Always be better. Always better the bigger person. Always be humble and always smile. That’s how you stay positive because you leave no room for negativity to corrupt your life.

Accept this and you will feel happy immediately

Damian NgLeave a comment

What is stopping so many of us from being truly happy?
What is that one thing that has always been nagging at us, telling us how incomplete or lousy we are?

So many people has shared about happiness and has written about it. Tips on how to start being happy immediately and on how you can relax and see things from a different perspective, and so on.

What about this? Just be mindful of this ONE thing and you can immediately feel so much better about yourself and be happier.

Disclaimer: I am not a guru or NLP practitioner. I am just a simple guy who is journeying through this  world just like you. The sharing and thoughts are mine and I do not seek to impose or force them upon you. If you find them useful, I am glad to have made a difference. If they do not bring value in any way, I would still like to extend my gratitude for reading it. It would, however, be helpful if you could comment and share with me on things you would like to improve on this website. 

So let’s get back to the topic. What is the one thing that you can embrace that will change your entire outlook or perspective?

Perfection, or the lack of it.

Let’s face it. We all have our ideals and we all expects a lot from the world and from ourselves. This is probably due to the pace of life in today’s society. Everyone else is getting so much more successful and rich. There is always someone out there who is out-doing you.

Competition is good. It keeps us on the edge and makes us strive for progress in our lives. However, the thing that is constantly affecting our happiness, which is also counter-productive to your goal of progress is perfection. We expect things to turn out the way we imagine. We expect a project that we are starting on to not screw up or we are expecting certain people to behave or work in a particular way. All these expectations of ideals are unrealistic. In fact, it robs you of positive energy that requires to you make healthy progress.

Progress is supposed to uplift and show you your prowess in expanding your limits, not to remind you of the imperfections that is always going to be around in this world. The more we begin to tune ourselves to this world, this imperfect world and the imperfect us, the more we will grow to appreciate and be grateful for the progress that we are getting every single day.

Progress, like success, is subjective. Progress for me may be in small ways that I was able to someone smile today or that I could hold off my temper against my mum. Learn to appreciate every small progress and accept that perfection is never truly the right goal to strive for, progress is.

For me, this website is never going to be perfect. There will be days I do not feel like writing. There will be days that I doubt myself. There will also be days that I feel like stopping this entire personal project but life is never perfect. Days will never be too. In fact, we are humans and we are always battling ourselves every single day.

Rejoice for the simple fact that your goals are still in your sight. Rejoice that you are not giving up or throwing away because it got hard. Throw out the expectation of perfection and focus on progress. This is the thing I truly believe will get so closer to happiness.

Why?

Because it did that for me.

Humbly,
Damian